You’ve decided you’re done with casual dating. You know exactly what you want and your non-negotiables. But when you look at your profile, it still sounds like everyone else’s: a list of generic hobbies, a vague hope for "someone fun," and a selfie that tells nothing about you.

If your profile is attracting matches who only want to chat and then ghost you, your profile is the problem (or you are too good-looking!)

Your intentional dating profile shouldn't just be an advertisement of who you are; it should be a powerful filter for who you don't want to date. It should attract partners who are ready to build something real.

Here is how to craft a dating profile that attracts partners ready for a real connection.

The Profile Audit: Stop Selling Yourself Short

Before you rewrite anything, let’s identify the three common mistakes that kill intentionality:

1. The "sarcastic & chill" trap: You think being aloof makes you cool. It actually signals low effort and a fear of commitment. Intentional daters look for warmth and clarity.

2. The shopping list: Listing requirements ("Must be 6 feet tall, no kids, owns a house...") makes you sound demanding, not intentional. Focus on your values, not the other person's demographics.

3. The vague hope: Phrases like "See what happens" or "Just testing the waters" send a clear message: you are still exploring and lack purpose.

✍️ Step 1: Highlight your intent 

Your primary goal is to signal that you are ready for a commitment, but also that the journey with you will be enjoyable. You can be fun, lighthearted, and still deeply serious about your future.

The intentional and engaging balance

Your bio must clearly articulate your desired relationship outcome while using your unique voice. This is your foundation.

Step 2: Focus on your joy and what makes you, you

People are attracted to happiness, passion, and enthusiasm. An intentional partner wants to know what makes your life rich before they enter it. What brings you peace, joy, or satisfaction?

Show your passions, don't just list them.

Skip the generic hobbies ("I like movies, food, and music"). Instead, reveal why you love those passions to show yourself.

• My go-to mood booster is to take a trip just to watch the waves. I love someone who appreciates quiet, shared moments over loud activities.

• Instead of “I like to travel”, use your favorite travel story or what your dream trip looks like?”

• Instead of “I love to read”, talk about your latest read and why you like it, or what was the one book that changed your life?

Allow someone to picture themselves seamlessly fitting into your already happy life. By being specific about the small things that bring you joy, you attract partners who share your appreciation for the details of life.

Step 3: Choose photos that reflect your life

Photos are the first filter. You need to show that you have an engaging life and are emotionally present.

• The "core value" shot: Include at least one photo that illustrates a key value you’ve written about. If you value fitness, show yourself post-hike (smiling, not struggling). If you value community, show a clear picture of you with friends. This is visual intentionality.

• Ditch the bathroom selfie: Photos taken from a very low or high angle in a dimly lit bathroom rarely scream "Intentional Life Partner." Use good lighting and genuine smiles.

• The conversation starter: Have at least one photo that is unique or intriguing—something a match can easily reference in a message (e.g., a picture with your pet, you doing your favorite activity).

Step 4: The 2-Week profile check-in (Is It Working?)

After two weeks, take a critical look at the type of people who are matching and messaging you:

• Are they asking high-value questions related to your prompts/values? (Good sign!)

• Are they talking about short-term plans or long-term vision?

• Are you matching with people who seem shallow?

If your results are off, it’s not a failure—it's data. Rewrite the section that’s missing the mark. You might need to be more explicit about your intent or less generic in your photo choices. Continuous refinement is key to intentional dating success.

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